Should I care, worry, doubt or give attention? These are words that resonate well with many people. Many people think that these words affect introverts. This is not true. I recently was invited to a party by a close friend. I had come from work and tired. The party costed quite a buck. I decided to think and deliberate on whether I should go or not. Should I attend or not? I wondered. Tired and exhausted, I resulted in attending my buddies party. I took the bucks for my savings and off drove to my friends. I feared to disappoint my friend by not attending the party. This is a common scenario for many people.
The fear to get rejected and feel like an outcast is some of the reasons that made me shrink to attend the party. This is a human instinct. I feared criticism and judgement from my friends. I begrudgingly ended up attending the party.
From my experience, I spent too much time to think about how my friends feel. I felt obligated and guilty for not attending my friend\'s party. I was worried to be seen as a jerk for bailing at the last moment.
I ended up wasting my time, money and energy. I learnt that words such as \"No, thanks!\" and “I can not afford it\" are important words in life. I stopped worrying what about other people think. I resulted in establishing boundaries and not accepting approval from friends.